Are marriages just to assure two souls are connected? #loveiseternal

As a girl, I always fantasied to meet an extra caring and chivalrous kind of man in life. Not always fantasy is grand than reality. Many times you get more than you even expect, as it is said God has a bigger plan than you wish.

Marriage - this word is horrifying to many, while others are fanatical about it. Yeah, I even have fantasized about it frequently. But real life is far too different from what you dream about.

I believed, after marriage, I will be the only one in his life for which he needs to care, worry and pamper and spend round-the-clock around me. But that was my belief, how can I forget about the surrounding in which we live. How can I forget his family as well as mine? How can I forget his friends and my dear ones? How can I forget about the passion and responsibility we both have within us?

Out of blue, once I asked him, “What if we won’t have been together?”

“Maybe, I would be with someone with whom I won’t have such great bond as with you and would be just hoping to complete this life phase.”

“So what do you hope these days?”

“To live it more with you.”

That was the moment I felt, it’s never a requirement to have him every time near me, he is certainly around me through his soul. And what I have learned since I got a mind, love the soul not the bones of a person.

Surely, I have a deep connection with him but about his family, maybe I am okay with them or maybe not. But what’s the point in thinking about it, ‘if I have to stay with him, I have to accept them' many of us think like that. Here, things can’t be resolved in ‘Right or Wrong’ terms.

Partner's role plays like oregano for pizza or mint for Mojito. Partners are not to complete you, they are to add flavor, which you like, in your life. It’s okay if you are not comfortable with some part of his life, but it is wrong to cut and throw that part from his life.

Once while having a brunch date with him, in frustration I just confessed, “I am not comfortable with your parents.”

“I know.”

“So you don’t mind that I am uncomfortable.”

“Things are not comfortable in life until you give them time to settle and you accept that.”

“So is it my fault?”

“No, it’s the fault of our generation and the time we have.”              

“What does this mean?”

“We guys have less patience and more eagerness to settle things sooner. But at the same time, we don’t even spend enough time with those people with whom you want to settle things.”

After some silent minutes, while observing me, he asked "Am I right?”

 Yeah, he was surely true with this.

It’s not just about parents or family, sometimes I am not comfortable with his friend group or his deportment, but that does not mean I am going to cut his connection or stay away from him. Surely, I took time to set with his things.

Just a few months back, when we were attending the marriage of one of my closest friends, he asked me randomly, “Why did u choose me as your Groom?”

“Because I love you.”

“Was that the only reason?”

I thought for a while, then answered, “No.”

“Then?”

“Because I feel comfy and relaxed around you.”

“Why is that so?”

“Do you need an explanation for this even?”

“Just want words, I know your feelings.”

“Since we met, you never disrespected me or my choices, never let me down with my expectations about us, I always had helping hand of you on my dead ends, you never stopped me from following the passion even though I can’t give enough time to you.” After a pause, I continued, “Is this enough?”

“More than I thought.”

He had that charming smile on his face which I flattered over.

That same moment I realized, expressing is as important as loving someone. It’s not because another one won’t feel the same, but words have their own magic.

Surely marriages are not important for 2 souls to unite, but how does that matter to them, they wanna stay together, they can without or with marriage. But marriages matter to our elders, in Indian culture at least, they feel secured about their infants. What can be an issue to today’s couple about marriage, they can look from the perspective that they are going to get chiliad of snaps as their memories and for social media posting.

In our life, things are simple but we have made it complicated because of our attitude and morality.

Nothing restricts love, affection and bond.